Clothes Don't Fit? Blame the Clothes, Not Your Body.

Here's an abbreviated version of a conversation I have all the time:⠀
Client: I 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 to lose weight because my clothes don't fit!⠀
Me: Why does your body need to change to fit the clothes? ⠀
Client: I don't know. I paid a lot for them. ⠀
Me: How long have you had these clothes? ⠀
Client: Years.⠀
Me: You've been working hard on your relationship with food. How would focusing on the scale benefit you at this point?⠀
Client: It would probably make me miserable. ⠀
Me: So, are your clothes more valuable than your relationship with food and your body? ⠀
Client: Definitely not! ⠀
Me: What should we do about this issue with the clothes? ⠀
Client: Find clothes that fit MY body. ⠀
Me: 😀 ⠀
Your clothes owe you nothing. You don't need to fit them, they need to fit YOU. Even if you've spent $$$$ on clothes you can no longer wear, you don't need to change in order to wear them again. If you've worn them more than 3-4 times, you've probably made a decent return on your investment. If not, consider selling/buying clothes on a resale site, such as Poshmark or donating them to a good cause. ⠀
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If your body is still changing while you recover from an eating disorder, pregnancy or a history of dieting, don't buy a lot of clothes right now. Get a few essential items that you feel comfortable wearing and mix it up with accessories that make you feel good. Follow @theshirarose , a NYC based therapist and body positive fashion blogger, for tips on where to find larger clothing sizes, how to shop for a changing body and ED recovery. ⠀
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Your body deserves nourishment and doesn't need to change to fit an arbitrary clothing size. ⠀
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Please share your experience navigating a changing clothing size or shopping for clothes - struggles, triumphs, tips for others?⠀